Have you ever been angry with your spouse even though the love is there? It’s not new; anger is an emotion that every couple can attest to in their relationship. As long as you have two imperfect people walking together, you are more than likely to find them getting angry at each other every now and then. Anger is usually caused by differing opinions, ways of doing things, and more.
The good thing is that it can be managed and prevented from blowing out of proportion but it’s just so sad that it’s not everyone that knows the effective things to do when they are angry with their spouse.
If you are part of this category, I have great news for you! You don’t have to remain ignorant anymore.
Below are some of the effective things you can do when you are angry with your spouse.
The importance of communication in a relationship cannot be overemphasized particularly in the face of a disagreement. It is important that you communicate openly and honestly when something is wrong.
Don’t close up and expect your spouse to know what’s wrong with you! They are not magicians for God sake. Tell them calmly and clearly and avoid the use of accusatory tone so that they won’t react defensively.
To learn how to effectively communicate with your spouse, click the link below. https://firstthings.org/keys-to-effective-communicaton-in-marriage/
Take Responsibility For Your Part
Ever heard the phrase “it takes two to tango”? well, that’s correct particularly when it comes to anger in a relationship.
It is highly probable that your spouse is not the sole cause of the anger, therefore it is essential that you acknowledge the role you play instead of putting all the blame on your partner. Owning up to your part in the issue makes it possible for your spouse to own up to his as well.
Apologize Where Necessary
If you agree that you may have a hand in the cause of the problem, then it’s not a bad idea to apologize for your part in it. is it?
The truth is, you are most likely going to prevent the problem from degenerating into a shouting match by having a calm conversation and admitting your fault than you would by asserting your innocence and trading blame.
Forgive And Let Go
If you did what was outlined in number one to three above, chances are that your spouse is also asking you for an apology. So at this point, you just have to forgive and let go. Make sure you don’t go to bed angry with your spouse thereby making the grudge to fester.
Forgive from your heart. It takes forgiveness for any marriage to work because like I said earlier, we are imperfect beings and chances are your spouse would most likely get you angry again. So just forgive from your heart and seal it with a kiss.
Never Bring It Up Again
Once you forgive your spouse, you should NOT under any circumstances bring it up again. If you have truly forgiven your spouse, you may not necessarily forget, but you would not bring it up again. Never harbor a fault of your spouse to be used as an ammunition for a later date.
To learn more on how to resolve conflict in marriage then I recommend that you get the book titled “The 5 languages of apology” by best selling author Gary Chapman. You can click on the link below to get a copy. https://g.co/kgs/211JvP
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