Have you ever wondered if your partner loves you? This can be very challenging when you don’t know if you can fully bank on the love being confessed to you or not. I know you must have asked several times to clear your doubt, but what if you get some clues that can help you detect if your partner loves you? sounds interesting right?
Below are 7 undeniable signs to detect your partner’s love for you. But before then, let’s talk about love.
What is love?
To many people, love is an intense feeling of affection towards another person. While this is true, it is not all there is to love. Love transcends feelings and emotions. It is all encompassing. It is your action towards another person that is borne out of a good and pure heart. It is your duty towards every human more so the person you are romantically attached to. It is the only debt you owe humanity. So when you say you love someone, it means that they have become your duty and responsibility.
7 Ways to know if your partner truly loves you
So, now that you know what love is, the next thing to look out for are practical actions of love. Now I don’t really trust actions because they can be faked. But consistent action in the same endeavor, is a good sign. So what are these actions of true love?
Patient With You
Love is patient it doesn’t put pressure. It allows you take your time. When someone loves you, they are patient with you. They won’t try to force you to make decisions that you are not sure of, they won’t put pressure on you to do what you are not sure you want to do. They would give you time to come to terms with their request or decisions before making a choice.
A classic example is a guy trying to convince a girl to have sex with him when she isn’t ready, and threatening to leave if she don’t. Loving her entails that he should be patient enough to wait for her if that’s what she wants until she is ready to take the relationship a step further. Visit this link below to learn about patience. https://biblicalstrategies.com/how-to-practice-patience-in-your-relationships/
There is no love without kindness. That is why I have problems with romance novels where the main lead is proud, arrogant, disrespectful, and even mean and still somehow manages to love. Like how is that possible?
If you think that kind of love is okay then something is seriously wrong with your definition of love. Someone who disrespects you, is mean to you and acts arrogantly towards you definitely doesn’t love you. Instead, a person that loves you is generous towards you, that person is nice to you, they don’t speak harshly to you, they care for you. Simple.
People often say that envy is a proof of love but not at the expense of your progress. Someone that truly loves would want the best for you. They won’t be envious or jealous of your good fortune. A person that loves you truly wants you to excel in whatever you are doing and they are genuinely happy for you when good things come your way.
When you are with someone who constantly puts you down, and whenever you share a bit of good news to them they downplay it and tries to make it about them, then you should watch it.
It’s not Self-seeking:
A person that truly loves you would care about your opinion on issues relating to both of you. If you are with someone who always insists that their word is law, and always wants you to do what they want without ever wanting to do what you want then you should be worried.
Even if according to them what you love is foolish at least they should be willing to make sacrifices every once in a while.
https://thoughtcatalog.com/lorin-ore/2017/12/9-warning-signs-that-the-person-youre-with-is-completely-selfish/ the link above would show you some signs of a selfish person to watch out for.
Love Is Not Irritable Or Touchy
A person that is being irritable or touchy is being extremely sensitive, volatile, easily offended, and a host of other related synonyms. That is not a sign of love, although, the exception could be there’s an underlying issue not being addressed, may offence or anger. But this shouldn’t linger for more than necessary.
Anytime you are with your partner you find yourself acting cautiously because you don’t want to offend their feelings or when it’s always as if you trying to tiptoe around a hungry crocodile, please flee. Don’t think too much about it just flee. Because it’s not good for your sanity and peace of mind.
Do Not Hold Grudges
If someone loves you, would they be angry with you now and then? Of course they would! You are both humans. But are you going to hold grudges for a long period? No! Love doesn’t keep records of wrong done.
If someone loves you, they won’t keep recalling all your flaws and all the mistakes you have made. They would love you despite them and let go. It takes love to forgive. So if you or your partner is finding it hard to forgive, you might want to reconsider that relationship. For steps on how to forgive quickly, click this link: https://www.drwaynedyer.com/blog/how-to-forgive-someone-in-15-steps/
If someone loves you, they would be loyal to you no matter the cost. They would believe in you, always expect the best of you, and stand a firm ground in defending you.
Finding a person that is willing to show you all of these amazing qualities is hard. Truly hard. So, I think the best thing you can do for yourself is to become a person of love. Learn to imbibe these qualities and show them to the people you come across in your everyday life.
You don’t have to wait for somebody to come and love you this way neither should you wait for that one person to love this way. These signs of love should be lived out in your everyday life because it is much easier to receive love by giving it out, than by just waiting for it to come to you.
This article isn’t just for detecting if your partner, but also to check if love So, looking at these qualities, do you love your partner?
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