Facing rejection from a lady you love can lower your morale especially when your intentions are genuine. It’s even more frustrating when you face multiple rejections any time you approach a lady for commitment. This might leave you wondering why no girl wants to date you and if you will ever find a woman to love you.
The valid reasons that will make a girl say no to you are numerous and they vary from one woman to another; however, I have shared 9 important reasons why no woman wants to say yes to you in this article. This will help you to prevent further mistakes in getting the woman of your dreams to say yes to commit to you.
A large number of rejection from ladies can be traced to your manner of approach whether online or offline; it’s funny how several guys suck at this. Imagine asking for commitment from a lady you just met, that you know nothing about. You don’t know who she is, her values, strength and weaknesses, or where she comes from, but the mere sight of her beauty just inspire you to profess love and ask for a relationship immediately.
Although this has worked for some persons, it is not the norm. To be honest, the number of failures from this manner of approach outweigh the success story.
The fact that you want a serious relationship/wife doesn’t mean you should be so desperate to pick a random stranger to stay with you forever.
You need to move your focus from seeing her as a relationship tool and means to fulfilling your marriage goals into being interested in knowing her as you climb up the ladder of commitment. Many ladies see it as a big turn off when you have no interest in knowing them.
If you are reaching out to her on social media, you might want to limit the greetings and strike intelligent conversation. You don’t need to send multiple hi, hello, or greetings and waiting for a response. You can simply say hi, commend her and set the pace for bonding; get to know each other and build a connection before taking the next move to unveil your intentions.
It is often said that guys are moved by what they see while ladies are moved by what they hear, as important as this fact, ladies are also moved by what they see. Even if you have a good approach but suck in appearance, a no might just be handing around the corner.
You need to pay attention to your dressing. Cut and comb your hair, shave your beards, look presentable and also smell nice. You don’t need to look unkempt, wear oversized clothes, funny looking shoes, and the likes. You don’t even need to break a bank to look presentable, whether you are the jeans or corporate kind of your guy, you can work on your dress sense.
A lady wants a man she can be proud of in public. Although not dressing well is something that can be worked on, many ladies do not have the patience to help you change. They expect you to do the needful.
Building an attractive dress sense as a guy will increase your chances of attracting the lady of your dreams. Read this to boost your dressing style: https://stylegirlfriend.com/how-to-match-clothing-guys/
You are not her type
Sounds funny right? Everyone has a spec of the kind of person they want to spend their lives with and this varies from one person to another. So your rejections could be due to the fact that you don’t possess the qualities of her dream guy, this could be in terms of behaviours, attitude, way of living or qualities beyond your control.
And hey! It doesn’t make you a bad person neither does it make you unfit for someone else.
While one lady would prefer a dark, slim and tall guy another would prefer a short, light-skinned and heavily built.
She might also need someone that’s devoted to her religion, whose values and principles aligns with hers, someone that can play a certain game, from a particular tribe or location and even from a particular profession. She might want someone outspoken or reserved and suchlike.
Although some of these do contribute to a successful union, while others are key; you don’t have to beat yourself if you’re not her type. You can either convince her you are the right one for her or settle with someone that loves and appreciate you for you.
She doesn’t like you
Often heard that ladies can say no when they mean yes, right? Not true for all cases. Some don’t like you enough to date you even if you are genuine or have the money the buy her anything.
There are instances where a lady will even eat your money and focus her attention on the man she loves (which isn’t ideal), while some tell you no outright. Although some guys are patient enough to keep asking and waiting for a yes, many do not have that time to keep waiting for a yes.
Attraction most times comes naturally, and if it’s not there, it’s difficult for a lady to move on with you.
You will know from her behaviour and words that she’s not into you. Some of which includes: Repeated series of multiple excuses, missing your calls without returning, forced/monologue conversations, lack of excitement when you meet or hang out, she rarely checks on you or shows concern about what you do and many more.
In your quest for love, do not force, beg or pressure someone to stay with you if they don’t want to. Forever is too long to lead a loveless union.
You’ve been Friendzoned
This is the reality of both genders. That moment when someone has been part of your life and dreams and then you hear things like, I love you as a brother; now I’m laughing.
Being Friendzoned is also similar to the previous reason of her not being into you but the difference is that, she cares this time, she loves you enough to be part of your life but not as your girl. Her heart might be for someone else or hoping to find someone else but not you.
She will pick your calls, show concern for your dreams, go out with you and make your day worthwhile but she won’t say yes to you because she has come to see you as her family.
But you want more? I know right? It’s also a challenge to ladies who love guys that only see them as a sister. Maybe I should write on how to escape the friendzone; smiles.
Her friends don’t like you
It’s difficult to date a lady with friends that don’t get along with you except she’s not the type that is influenced by peers. The kind of friends the girl of your dreams moves with will affect your relationship with her because at every point she would want to bring you up in their discussion. Trust me, a negative impression of you by them affect you.
Having her friends like you will make it easy to get her to accept you and even make peace in your time of conflict.
She’s not ready
A lady will say no to you if she’s not ready for commitment. Her reason might be due to her choice of attaining a certain age, academic level, career or professional level or it could even be that she’s yet to open her heart after her previous experiences with guys. Failed relationships can dwindle a lady’s desire for trusting a guy again.
If her only excuse from saying no is because of this, you might want to give her some time if it is okay by you to move on.
You have too many girls around you
A lady wants a man to love her and pour his attention on her, but when she has to contend with other ladies for your attention, it becomes a challenge. It doesn’t matter if your intentions are genuine, being around too many ladies could send a signal that you are not serious.
Let it be the woman of your dreams then other ladies, not the other way round. Let it be established that she’s the one.
Your Intellectual, Mental and Emotional Capacity
Did you know that some ladies fall in love with guys mentally before emotionally? Absolutely. It’s difficult to get such a lady to have soft spot for you if you can’t stimulate her mentally. She’s easily moved by intelligent conversations, a guy who can contribute meaningfully to a matter and sound in reasoning. Reading books, listening to keynote speakers and moving with quality people can boost your intellectual and mental capacity.
Furthermore, beyond being smart and intelligent, you won’t get a yes from a lady if you are not emotionally mature. Beyond the wisdom, she wants love, care and understanding. Complaining about everything, inability to forgive or resolve conflicts, ability to manage your emotions, insensitive to her needs, poor communication skills and more are red flags to keel her away from you.
While you anticipate a yes from the lady of your dreams, ensure you are grooming yourself to be a man of value. It’s so easy to expect so much from another that you neglect the fact that you also need to work on yourself.
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