Love is sweet when it’s with the right person, they say. But do you know that love can die even in marriages? When there is no more love, you need these 9 sure keys to rekindle the love in your marriage.
The fact that couples stay together for many years does not mean that love is what is sustaining them till now.
Most of the time they just have to stay because the children are involved as well as other factors considered in marriages. It’s quite difficult for two different people driven by a particular goal to come together and stay together for a long time.
Ignore the social media love you see, underneath it is this pain that begs for expression. The truth is as I’ve said, the love would die. Is there a way around this? Possibly, depending on the efforts of both partners and their zeal of wanting to keep their marriage.
Remember, love is the initial driving force that propels both parties into the marriage but does it have to be like that? A time would come where your partner changes as a result of the attitudes he or she displays. It might be that you’re not reciprocating what needs to be either love or respect. Or the fact that you’ve made other things more important than your partner. If there’s any possible solution, it requires both partners. Especially if they’re ready to save their marriage. It’s really necessary to rekindle the love in your marriage because if divorce is the endpoint, there’d be a great impact on the children and it can affect their mental health.
You need proven keys to rekindle the love in your marriage and some of them that work when there is no more love include:
Falling out of love doesn’t happen overnight, and falling back in love will also take time too. Starting all over again has been one sure way that has been helping over time.
When you noticed that the initial love isn’t the way it uses to be and that you and your partner have gotten so used to each other and nothing seems interesting anymore. That is the best time you take a time out and start all over again. Remind yourselves how you both started and why you both got attracted to each other.
Go on Dates
This is something that always happens among new fellas that are in love. You both do your well to appear in your best, please each other by going places like restaurants, cinemas, malls, and other recreational centers. This rekindles the love.
There’s this fuel it stirs that would later grow over time. Dates are not limited to unmarried couples. Go on Dates!
Plan to discuss:
Talk about your flaws, retrace your steps and figure out where you both missed it. Identifying where the wrong is can help you both live well with each other. Amongst others, make sure it doesn’t end with the discussion, put into practice the solutions that were discussed.
4. Shut out the world rather than each other:
When you figure out that the world which is the third party is coming into your home, shut it off. Do not allow it to take your home.
The world here can be different things, it can be your job, your children, your church, your career, or anything that wants to pull you both apart. Stay together, grow together.
5. Set Priorities:
Who or What you place as your toppings speak a lot in your marriage. When you set your job or career above your spouse, what you are saying is that when it comes to a situation that you have hit to choose one over the other; you’d choose your job over your spouse.
So I’d strongly advise that in setting priorities nothing should come above your spouse, not even your immediate family or even children or career as the case may be.
6. Determine to work things out:
It is a different thing for you to identify there is an issue, a different thing to source for possible solutions, and a different thing to be ready to make sure it works out.
There’s is no epitome of assurance that in the process of trying to get back in love that things will always go as planned. So what you both need is to have each other at heart knowing fully well that you want this.
Having been determined to make things work out, you have got to get yourself committed to each other.
Transparency is key - Open up to each other and keep absolutely nothing unturned.
Accountability is key - How did it go, what challenges did you encounter, How did you go about it, your spouse just has to know about it all.
Communication Is key - How you go about things, how you communicate with your partner, how you interpret messages from your spouse matter a lot.
Trust Is Key - No matter how you try if there is no trust, it will be difficult to achieve the desired. If trust has been destroyed it is broken, it can be rebuilt over time but not minding how long it will take, trust should be established.
Definitely everyone loves surprises although not all admit this. In trying to get things right again with your partner, it is functional that you do things that your partner would not have been able to predict.
Always try to come out in a new dimension, try to do something that will take your spouse aback, not the regular old routine. You could repeat some overtime but the spacing should be there.
9. Don’t blame each other for the distance:
Yes, there was a distance created over time as you both fell out of love. But that shouldn’t be put on anyone. Learn to accept the flaws and keep moving.
Do all of these and watch your marriage grow in love.
To your blissfulness in marriage.
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