I know you can’t wait to fall in love and walk down the aisle where you become the centre of attraction before everyone present and begin the journey of forever. Beautiful; who doesn’t want that? But first! There are 5 important things you must do before getting married.
Don’t Get Married Without Reading This
Marriage is not a joke neither is it for babies; it is a journey for the mature and also the only school I know of, that gives a certificate before you begin.
It’s not strange to say that many homes have crumbled and this has sparked fear in the hearts of singles. However, amid marital failures, there are still thriving homes and most of them are standing because of the foundations laid beforehand.
It is said that the way you spread your bed is the way you will lie on it. If you don’t actively prepare for your marriage, surprises are inevitable. And guess what! The best time to prepare for your home is now.
I want to show you 5 important things you must do before getting married and they are:
Discovering who you are and what you want in life will make it easy to find a partner that will compliment you. When you fail to establish your values or principles that guide you and your purpose, it increases your chances of ending up with anyone whether he/she is going your direction in life or not. This can pose a threat or cause future problems for you when you end up with someone that you’re not compatible with.
You can find yourself by taking time to observe your likes, interest, passion, desires, expectations, pain point, vision, check what you’re good at, ask people around you and more.
Now that you know how to find yourself, click here to see how to find a life partner
Work On Your Weakness
Have you heard people saying, “that’s how I am”? Well, I put it to you that you can learn, unlearn and relearn any way of life/thought you’re used to.
New habits can be adopted and old habits can be dropped. If you have bad attitudes that people are complaining about, including your partner, then you must look into them. Some of the habits might not necessarily be “bad” but not helpful for your relationship.
Everyone has a weakness, waiting for a perfect person is like waiting for the sun to stop shining. No matter how good a person is, there must be one or two things they don’t do right, but you see, the lesser the weaknesses the better.
Your singlehood is the best time to work on your weaknesses and it all begins with a decision to be different. You could ask your loved ones to tell you things they don’t like about you or they feel you can improve on, you could also do self-evaluation and actively work on improving yourself.
The ability to make attempts to be minimize your weaknesses is priceless.
Marriage is a journey, you will face many things that will stretch you. If you don’t develop enough strength now, you will struggle in marriage. You need to develop the capacity to forgive, tolerate, accommodate, make decisions, collaborate, handle responsibilities, pressures and more.
The more you build yourself as a single, the easier it is to withstand the uncertainties in marriage.
Areas to build capacity include: emotional, spiritual, financial, social intellectual and more. All of which will help you in building a successful home and living peaceably with your partner.
Find A Means Of Livelihood
Marriage is a responsibility. The bills won’t reduce, instead, they will keep rising. And when the kids come? It will skyrocket. So what do you do? Runaway? Certainly not!
While you’re waiting to meet your partner, find a means of livelihood, save for your wedding and kids, make investments and possibly get more than one source of income. Since the bills are coming from different places, you should set structures in place that will earn you money from multiple streams too.
Thankfully, the internet offers various opportunities for earning passive income.
Learn How To Forgive And Resolve Conflicts
No matter how in love you are with your partner or how much you desire a blissful union, you can’t overrule the place of conflict, disagreement or misunderstanding in the home. Not necessarily fighting and exchanging blows, that’s already physical abuse, but rather having conflicting ideas and varying perspectives.
You and your partner were raised by different parents in different localities, with different way of life, so definitely, you both can’t always think or have the same preferences or perspectives in all things which can lead to misunderstanding from time to time.
Things that seem normal to you might hurt them, vice-versa. Hence, you have to learn how t respect their feelings, resolve conflict maturely and timely too.
I will be sharing in my next post 3 easy ways to resolve conflict with your partner.
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