Is it possible to regain trust after cheating? This is the first question to be asked because you can only follow the how if you believe it is possible. In a relationship, the frequent question asked by a partner is “What can I do to offend you that will make you never forgive me?” And the most answer given for this is ‘Cheating’. Partners find it so hard to forgive, however, it is possible to get forgiven and regain the lost trust only if you are ready to work it out.
In the following steps, I will be showing you steps on how to regain trust after cheating.
Do the following if you’re wondering how to regain your partner’s trust:
1. Be Open About Emotions
This is needed on the path of someone who cheated and who was cheated on. The person who has cheated needs to be open, be ready to cry, grieve and express yourself about why you do it, and the person who was cheated upon must not keep to themselves, spill your pains and how you feel about being cheated on. This is to be able to work on communication.
2. Don’t Ignore The Issue
If you’d like to regain your partner’s trust or you would love to trust your partner after being cheated on, it is very important to trash out the issue, because if it is never trashed out, you will never be able to reach the causes of the cheating and regain trust, this is not about blame, but about addressing the issue to build a stronger issue and identify where you both have missed it
3. Avoid Being A Helicopter Partner
This is the type where you both begin to watch each other every move to regain one another trust, because in a cheating relationship if you have cheated on your partner, you would love to regain their trust and see if they have truly forgiven you and the person who was cheated on would love to know if the partner has truly repented.
Building trust doesn’t involve monitoring every one of their moves, reading through their chats, tracking their phones, etc. This will only worsen things and crash the trust will be broken more.
4. Stay Present and Future-Oriented
To regain the trust you both need to forgive one another and not constantly dwell on the last, get hurt by it, rather focus the energy on what can be done to be better
5. Go to Counseling
To regain trust, you both should go for counselling. A counsellor can help you both get through this stage without personal bias.
6. Trust Yourself
It is easy to constantly doubt one another after cheating, but is it with it? Of course not, Trust is the basis of all relationships, so you first must trust yourself to be able to trust your partner or regain the trust.
7. Cut all ties with your fling
It is important to cut all ties with the affair you had, all forms of communication must be broken to relieve your partner and see how sorry you are.
8. Accept the blame
This is where you must be accountable for your actions, do not blame your partner for whatever reason. This is the only way you can own up to your mistake and accept you are guilty. It is important to accept your mistake, then plan together on how to address it.
9. Be Transparent
You must tell your partner about every single happening in your life ranging from work, outing, etc this is the only way you can take responsibility and let your partner feel your commitment.
10. Go Slow
Regaining trust is not easy, it takes time, so don’t pressure your partner.
11. Start Afresh
This is where you both start afresh on a new page after addressing the cause of the cheating so as not to make the same mistakes.
When you want to regain trust after cheating, be aware that it takes time, discuss and thrash issues, because building trust takes so much, so you must be willing to chip in the work and the needed sacrifice if you want things to work out well. Teamwork is the only step to regain trust.
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