Breakups can be such heartache and can leave you in such an emotional mess. Truth is, it is not a walk in the park to move on from heartbreak but you need to dust off the hurt and shame and move on.
Living in the past by thinking about your ex is not going to do you good. You need to free yourself from all the pain, be kind to yourself.
For clarity’s sake, I have compiled 5 major signs you are not over your ex yet.
1. Constantly checking up on him/her:
While checking up on your ex after a breakup might not entirely be a bad idea, some people have taken on the habit of stalking their ex. They go through every post checking both likes and comments. They spend hours monitoring their ex’s new relationship. This is a good sign that you are not over your ex.
Being obsessive and snooping around can cause a serious breakdown. The relationship you had with your ex is now in the past and should remain there. Make up your mind to move on, your ex is now just a ‘background character’ and not a major part of your life.
2. Sending/posting hateful messages:
A breakup can leave some people so angry that they turn to write hurtful statements on their social media platforms to spite their ex. This mostly happens when their ex was wrong. You might feel resentful at first which is normal but you need to move on.
If you truly have gotten over your ex, you will not have plans to revenge or think of the next post or meme to piss him/her off.
3. ‘Showing up’ around your ex:
If you are thinking when your ex sees you he/she will see the mistake of breaking up and try to get back together. Reality check, it’s OVER. Going to the places you know your ex will be just for the above reason makes you look desperate and is an obvious sign you are not over it yet.
This could even lead to frustration because you can get rejected, again. Sometimes part of moving on could mean you have to stop visiting those places you both visited a lot for a while till you are completely over it.
4. Avoiding/comparing a new relationship:
Your breakup might have been very rough and might take some time for you to finally get over it, but you need to get over it eventually. Just accept you are now ‘single’ and learn from the mistakes of your former relationship to prepare for a new one.
Some people even begin to date again because of the pressure from family and friends. They go out on a date and find themselves comparing their date with their ex. This is a sure sign you are not yet over your ex.
And it is still a sign you are not over your ex when you try to date someone new to forget about your ex. As much you try to move on, make sure you are totally over your ex before you decide to find someone else.
5. ‘Acting’ fine:
You need to take it easy with yourself when you are in the process of accepting this new situation. You don’t have to hide your feelings, cry and shout if you need to, it’s all part of the healing process.
Trying to prove you are fine by telling everyone how great you are without your ex is an obvious sign that you are not yet over it. Being honest with yourself and everyone around you will help you heal faster.
That’s it on the 5 signs you are not over your ex yet. If you have others to add, feel free to drop them in the comments section.
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