The desire of every single is to walk down the aisle with the love of their lives and say yes to forever. However, it becomes a thing of concern to you, your loved ones including the society, when the year goes by and you are still single. In today’s article we’ll see 11 reasons why you are still single.
People begin to ask you “when?” as though picking a wedding date would change your status. Almost all your friends are married and some with kids. You’ve attended several weddings that you’re now becoming shy to go out. Sometimes you feel lonely, staring at beautiful couples and wondering when you will have someone to call your own.
You want to get married, I know right! But what exactly could be delaying it? The truth is that several factors are responsible for your singleness and I’m not even taking about village people. Understanding why you’re still single will enable you to adjust where necessary and put things in place for the future you seek.
Some of the reasons why you are still single in 2021 are (slides):
Negative experiences from the past can affect you deeply such that you will struggle to accommodate someone new. This can also be in the form of failed relationships; meeting the wrong people who cause nothing but pain, being abused sexually, physically, emotionally or otherwise, being cheated on or maltreated. They all have an impact on your mind.
When you have baggage in your heart and scars in your soul, it becomes difficult to truly love another. Even when you do, you keep hurting them, not because you want to but because something is wrong within. And you see, even when they love you, you find it difficult to receive the love and trust them.
Past experiences can make you build walls in your heart that restrict serious people from coming close, it closes your heart to love.
Some go as far as saying love is wicked, people are evil and that relationship doesn’t favour them.
Let me tell you the truth, love is beautiful and amazing. You had a bitter encounter, maybe multiple times, sorry about that, but it doesn’t change the fact that you can be happy in love.
It’s painful, yes! You didn’t deserve it, you yell, but please, there’s a whole lot you’re that’s on hold because you’re still stuck in your mind.
You need to let go, forgive yourself and offenders and commit to healing. Trust me, moving on is bliss.
It’s difficult to progress if the past still has a grip on you. Change your mindset about love and your confession too.
FEAR OF MAKING MISTAKES
Past experiences can lead to an intense fear of making mistakes. Probably you came from a troubled home or you’ve heard several news of failed marriages and you’re scared not to go the same line.
But your fear is causing havoc because it’s restricting you from giving love a chance. You suspect genuine people because of fear. You even end relationships for no reason because you don’t want to get hurt.
The fear of making mistakes won’t stop you from making mistakes. You need to take away that burden from your heart and tell yourself that even if marriages are failing, yours is an exception. Your home is blissful and you will attract the right person.
Negative attitudes can destroy your relationship and keep you single. Start looking out for unhealthy behaviours like over-demanding, poor financial management, disrespect, possessiveness, jealousy and insecurity. Check here to learn how to with jealousy insecurity
Bad temper, unforgiveness, insensitivity, selfishness and parasitism (taking without giving) are also toxic behaviours that can choke love out of your relationship.
Yours might be different from these, but you know better those attitudes that can destroy your relationship.
Take away the foxes before they destroy your relationship.
In some cases, you always meet people with these behaviours and you wonder if you will ever meet someone different. Do not wallow in toxicity because you want to rush out of singlehood.